3 Degrees of Separation – Or Less

Have you ever wondered about who your friends know and are friends with too?  I’ve recently discovered just how tiny SL can be.  My friend Alys, is friends with someone I have been following on Flickr for at least three years now, Kryla.  It wasn’t until recently that I really took notice of the network of people that are out there, just how tight the SL community is as a whole.

I think I may try an experiment and see just who knows who around SL.  I am going to pick a random person I want to get to know and see if I can get a conversation going with them through an introduction from a friend of a friend of a friend.  Lets see if this 3 degrees stuff (or less) holds true.

(names have been changed to protect the innocent!)


Gaining perspective…

I know it’s been a while since I have actually written anything in this blog.  It isn’t for lack of desire, but more for lack of content.  I didn’t get online as much during the summer, with my RL commitments getting in the way and putting a damper to online life.

Despite it all, I managed to get online more in August and with that, I partnered someone I really enjoy being around, however that wasn’t really meant to be largely because I was very sporadic in my online time and I found it difficult to be relied upon.  I don’t consider any of it a bad experience and I think that as a whole her and I are stronger friends because of it.  But I see now I probably shouldn’t have jumped in the way I did and so I do apologize to her for not being the best I could be.

Relationships, regardless of what life you are in require time and patience.  Those of you who manage to make it work, I applaud you.  Choosing to be with someone in SL is no small thing, regardless of what anyone says.  If you do take the plunge, I think it can be a rewarding experience.  Be respectful of each other, be respectful of the situations you both have outside of SL and above all talk about things that affect you.

What Is SL Really About?

I have opened a Facebook account for my Avatar and since doing so I’ve made quite a few connections with other SL people.  So between it, Flickr and now Plurk I’m feeling pretty dialed into all things SL related that don’t involve 80’s clubs and hair bands, or maybe they do.  you never know.

Anyway, a question was posed by a Facebook friend the other day about SL and being frustrated by those people who want photos of the person in real life and for her to voice chat with them.  He whole reason for being on SL is to have a place where she can socialize and express her creativity via the photos she creates, so what difference does it make if she doesn’t want to give out those kinds of details or participate in  voice chat?  Does a person need to prove their sexuality to participate in SL as the avatar which is displayed for everyone to see?

Personally, I don’t care if a person voice chats or shows what they look like in real life.  I’m not treating SL as a meet and greet place to find true love.  Most of the people live hundreds, if not thousands of miles away from me (consequently, this person lives only miles away from me, which I find rather amusing but I digress).  Why would I pursue anything with them beyond SL?  Beyond the face value of their avatar.  Do I like talking to them?  Do I enjoy their company? If the answers to those two things are yes, then that’s 90% of the whole social side covered.

This brings to mind the question; what are people using SL for?  If there are here for a creative outlet, good for them! I’m always amazed by the creators and creativity that is on display in SL and a number of photographers show it off very well.  People like Nimoe Constantine, Pretty Parkin, Skip Stahelli, Skippy Beresford and Trinetty Skytower  all produce stunning visual showing off the various creations that other users create to be worn or used in Second life.

If however they are trying to use SL as some sort of dating service, they are really missing the reason for SL to be around.  If you’re looking for that special someone, wouldn’t Match.com be a better choice?  You could find people who are actually in your area!  I’m not saying that love doesn’t flourish on SL, or that there is no emotional connections made there, quite the contrary.  But I see that more as an outcome of interaction, rather than the whole reason for being there.

Anyway those are just my thoughts, my opinion on the matter.  I’m sure there are people who will agree, or disagree.  But that brings me full circle back to what brought this paragraph on in the first place.  For whatever reason you use SL, be it a creative outlet, a place to meet people from around the world, or even a place to find love, the bottom line is, respect someone’s wishes and don’t question why they do the things they do.  Just accept their decision and carry on with your SL, be it with them or without them.