Conversation that is.
We come to SL to socialize, and it seems that we spend most of our time standing around on sims checking out other people, but rarely do we engage them. I think that is in large part due to a lot of people not knowing how to initiate a conversation. They are either too shy, or they are just not interested, which the latter begs the questioin, why are you here?
One of the best tools to start a conversation is the avatar profile. Everyone has them but so many people put so very little effort into defining them. I don’t mean that you have to write an epic novel the size of War and Peace, but least have something in there. Well thought out profiles contain nuggets of information that help a person determine if they want to IM you or not. A blank profile to me makes me not want to talk to someone. I understand that there is this mantra of “If you need to know, IM me.” but saying just hi to someone and hoping there is a connection there usually doesn’t work. Having conversation hooks in your profile help start the conversation. I use them all the time.
Of course there are the other side to the equation. Someone having spent time creating a well thought out profile only to be bashed in the proverbial head with someone’s often blunt method of opening up a conversation. Most people don’t respond to, “Ur Hot,” or, “Hey sex kitten,” if their profile says something like, “Hi I like cats, shoes and I’m not in SL for sex.”. So again, a profile is there for people to read, to give the interested party some insight into who that person is, and so that you don’t come of as a complete idiot.
Another thing that I’ve learned is, if you are into RP in SL, your RP character doesn’t translate well into a non RP environment. Stop being Princess Perky of the Dire Elves or Buttlover Todd, sex starved musclehead when you go out into the world at large. Your characters may be fun to you, but the average person isn’t going to enjoy your RP when they are in a social setting that isn’t expecting it. They’ll just think you’re very weird.
In SL there are lots of things to see and do. It’s always better to do it with someone else. So I hope to see you in world. If you see me, please say hi!